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The ANSWER for Divorced Dads looking to WIN in Family Court
There is no reason to be losing so badly when you are a divorced dad in Family Court... except that you don't have the right ideas, tools nor skills. BUT....IF… you can listen, follow a plan and are “coach-able”, we can DEFINITELY help you to improve the situation thi Sunday January 13th, 2008 on our teleseminar / webcast at DivorcedDadWeekly.com
1/11/2008 3:36:48 AM

Summary - “Divorce 101 - Step Four - Negotiation: Positioning For Peace”
Waging Peace is the # 1 Negotiation / Positioning tool, strategy, tactic and systematic approach we recommend for creating multiple win/win solutions when you are a divorced dad in Family Court, facing custody, access, child visitation and child support issues. Waging Peace means putting aside blame, anger, recrimination, fault finding, revenge and all other negative emotions and fully considering the implications of every choice you make and how it will affect your child of divorce.
10/22/2007 2:49:08 PM

Divorced Dads - FREE Teleseminar / Webcast Training Call Tonight October 22, 2007 at 7:30 PM EST
"DIVORCED DAD WEEKLY TELESEMINAR / WEBCAST TONIGHT!" Our regular weekly 70 minute teleseminars tonight Monday October 22nd, 2007 at 7:50 PM EST. Please join us on the call before it begins at 7:50 PM EST. TONIGHT'S CALL: Divorce 101 - Step 4: Negotiation: "Positioning for Peace..."
10/22/2007 2:42:29 PM

Divorced Dads - FREE Teleseminar / Webcast Training Call Tonight at 7:30 PM EST
"DIVORCED DAD WEEKLY TELESEMINAR / WEBCAST TONIGHT!" Our regular weekly 70 minute teleseminars tonight Monday October 15th, 2007 at 7:50 PM EST. Please join us on the call before it begins at 7:50 PM EST.
10/15/2007 12:59:42 PM

Divorced dads - FREE Teleseminar / Webcast Training Call Tonight at 7:30 PM EST
"DIVORCED DAD WEEKLY TELESEMINAR / WEBCAST TONIGHT!" Our regular weekly 70 minute teleseminars begin tonight Monday September 24th, 2007 at 7:30 PM EST. Please join us on the call before it begins at 7:50 PM EST.
9/24/2007 3:30:31 PM

FREE teleseminar for Divorced Dads launches Thursday December 21st, 2006
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9/24/2007 1:52:10 PM

Divorced Dad Daily - The FRI Blog

Divorced Dad Daily (DDD) is the the main blog (parent) of FRI. It includes a category (child) entitled Fathers Resources.

9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

History of Fathers Resources International - Part one
History of Fathers Resources International, its activities and the autobiography of its founder, Danny Guspie. Part one - Prologue: The boy becomes the man: A childhood hero points the way and provides the inspiration.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Press Release Blog
We will be keeping the media and the public up to date on Fathers Resources International by publishing press releases and media reports here on the Press & Media Blog.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

'Virtual' Visits the future of Parenting Time
Virtual Parenting Time
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Joint custody could improve state's child support efforts

FOLLOW THE MONEY...

Good article here on child support enforcement being improved by having a joint custody presumption in Michigan:

Note the following - the industrialization of child support as an adjunct to "The Divorce Industry"

One thousand seven hundred employees now work full-time in Friend of the Court offices as referees, counselors, clerks, and support staff in all 83 Michigan counties. In addition, many employees of the criminal justice system devote a major portion of their workday to this last vestige of debtor's prison.

So it is no surprise that there was consternation in Lansing over a federal plan that cut nearly a quarter billion dollars in Michigan subsidies for child-support enforcement. But one state legislator, Rep. Leslie Mortimer, R-Horton, has introduced a bill that could reduce the need for devoting so many resources to child support enforcement.

The problem we see daily is the "Ghost figures" that Ontario uses for its claim that there is 3 Billion dollars in unpaid child support.

Hogwash - 2 Billion of it is nothing but the meter ticking on matters that never return to Court for a termination order because dad can't afford a lawyer to get his Court order changed. Then he faces licence suspensions and possible jail time.

In the Alberta case Henry and Henry which is currently before the Canada's Supreme Court, a dissenting Judge nailed it perfectly - If child support should automatically go up with an increase of income, fairness dictates the reverse should also happen - Child support should go down when income decreases.

But then what would everybody at Child Support Enforcement do for a real job?

9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Repeal the Bradley Amendment - The birth of Debtors Prison for Dads Worldwide
Repeal the Bradley Amendment - Where the Child Support money trail begins in North America and the creation of Debtor Prison for Fathers in The United States...
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Divorced Dad brings test case to publicize shared parenting deal
Divorced Dad brings test case to publicize shared parenting deal - Dad wants to set example to other former couples: Injunction bans him from revealing details of his parenting plan.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

History of Fathers Resources International - Part Two

History of Fathers Resources International - Part Two

By Danny Guspie

PROLOGUE: Part 2 -  The Apple does not fall far from the tree

“The Beatles: An Authorized Biography” by Hunter Davies spoke to me like no other book I’d ever read before. I was a well read kid at that point, having read everything I could get my hands on from the moment I could read which would be somewhere around age four when my mother taught me the alphabet with a set of plastic letters that had magnets and a board to move them around on…

The Book: A wondrous tale happy, sad and true (or at least so I believed at that age…) that I related to. Mainly because of John Lennon’s family history, there was something very familiar and haunting about it, despite many things that were not held in common between our respective families. It was his quintessential Rock n’ Roll vocal – he seemed like the real deal (at a time when my family seemed like a charade…). I could not only hear his pain, but I could feel it – it gave expression to my own.

So began a love affair of a different sort, one of a young boy who’d found a kindred spirit, who wanted to know why he’d been so deeply affected by this story. It was not to be the first or the last time John Lennon would profoundly shape my development and independence in the same way Elvis Presley did for Lennon at age 15…

Arguably, Lennon’s music and the Beatles were the most influential aspect of my young life, helping me to feel hope, happiness and providing a language to articulate express and begin creating my own identity during my family crisis and resulting divorce. I always knew my parents were troubled from age 1 onwards. But at age 9 I became extremely cognizant that the end of my family was nigh.

John gave me an outlet. A very healthy one. He taught me how to transform pain into art. Music has always been my greatest outlet to expression. But John taught me how to scream. Really scream in a Rock n’ Roll way - Once I heard his first solo album when I was 12. I began my own form of primal therapy. When I heard him sing “Mother” I finally felt I wasn’t the only one who felt the same pain over a family that had large problems.

I absorbed Rock n’ Roll totally. It gave me a reason to get up everyday. Even today Little Richard’s “Wop bop a loo bop a wop bam boom…gets me “rockin’” I’m sure anyone who hears me play today, and who has heard my songs can easily see that John Lennon and Keith Richards made a huge and everlasting impression on me musically.

So I began playing drums and songwriting, and emulating John. Within 12 months my parents separated and ultimately divorced and I became a latch key kid, living with dad first then Mom, then on my own. So began my lifelong journey with divorce - But before I left home, I became a full fledged drop out. Spare was my favorite class in High School (with “high” being the operative word….)

At age 14 I was playing guitar, hooky on a daily basis, had done an enormous amount of drugs of all sorts and on weekends go to watch the film Rolling Stones “Gimme Shelter” - 35 times to be exact at CineCity. I was also fanatical film watcher at the “Original 99 cent Roxy Theatre” long before the Rocky Horror Picture Show destroyed and closed that theatre down for good. It was a good place to hang and get high with minimal fuss and forget the mess my life was because of my own unhappiness with my family.

Next – Lost and Found

9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Shared parenting Bill in New York State
'Shared parenting' seen as custody solution Bills in New York would require courts to treat mom, dad equally
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Children so traumatized by their parents divorce, that they need psychiatric treatment
A record number of Ulster Ireland couples are splitting up - leaving children so traumatized they need psychiatric treatment - it emerged today. A family expert said she feared divorce levels here had reached epidemic proportions.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Child-support bill tied to revoked drivers' licenses fails in Utah
A child-support bill tied to drivers' licenses fails to pass the Senate in Utah - Associated Press: Utah Senators had concerns about revoking the driving privileges of those not paying child support because they weren't being allowed to see their children.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

MORE than 300,000 divorced dads will pay more relaistic child suport in Australia
Caring for a child for between 52 and 126 nights each year will reduce the amount owed by 24 per cent, while those with custody for more than 176 nights will cut their maintenance bills by half. The new formula also recognises for the first time that the cost of raising children increases as they get older.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Prime Minister Harper - Hockey Dad
The winds of political change for Divorced Dads in Canada begins at a hockey rinck on Otta...
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

"ISN'T CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD?" By Danny Guspie
Open letter from Danny Guspie to the Governments of Canada: "ISN'T CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD?" I was inspired to ask yet again for an accounting of where the increased tax revenue dollars go since the implementation of the Child Support Guidelines in 1997. Heidi and I met with the Department of Finance who could not give us these answers 9 years ago. Hopefully they've had time to do the books ;-)
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Adultery = No Spousal Support in South Carolina
No spousal support for adultery in South Carolina
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Love's grand - Divorce is a Hundred Grand ;-)
Yes, say two University of Virginia sociologists who found that married women are happiest with a sensitive guy who earns most of the family's money. Women are also willing to take on more housework if they feel their husbands pay attention to them, and they feel the arrangement is "fair," if not equal.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

The REAL problem with unilateral no-fault divorce
"The problem with unilateral no-fault divorce is that it hurts women by removing the incentive for the moneyed spouse (who is usually the husband) to make a settlement,"
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Divorced Dad in South Dakota takes MASSIVE ACTION
NORTH DAKOTA: Secretary of state OKs child custody initiative by Divorced Dad - He has until August to get nearly 13,000 signatures to get it on the ballot for a state-wide vote.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Divorced Dad and Actor Alec Baldwin writes book on Family Court

Actor Alec Baldwin is writing a book about child custody cases after enduring a heartbreaking custody battle for his daughter, Ireland. "The book is not necessarily a memoir about my own situation, because no matter what you do, no matter how difficult this process is, you've got to keep in mind the other party is still the co-parent of your child, so you've got to be careful there."

The day is soon coming where we will hit critical mass - Change will come about because even the famous, rich and powerful who have been burned so badly in Family Court will make it their life's work to make change possible.

I really like that he says: "...you've got to keep in mind the other party is still the co-parent of your child."

9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Divorced Dads Unite: "ISN'T CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD?" - Part two
TAKE ACTION - Children of Divorce should not be paying down the national debt.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

"Why do wives walk out of marriage?

It's a good question...

The Angry Dad: "Why do wives walk out of marriage? When my wife first asked for a divorce, a lawyer called me, asked me a few questions, and then tried to convince me that she was leaving me for another man. 'Who is the boyfriend?', he asked."

The reason wives leave is there is no incentive to stay.

Many attorneys simply advise: "I can get you the kids, house, car, savings, child support and alimony. Get him to leave..."

The soon to be ex-wife (S2BX) launches a disingenuous campaign of misery (not hard because she is the miserable one...).

Dad leaves to keep the peace and the rest of the story you already know. If you're reading this, you're living it: Most men were willing to overlook this character defect when they married their wives, believing love would prevail…

Men need to teach each other the skills to avoid, circumvent or address these problems before, during and after marriage.

I know because I was successful, raised 2 kids as a stay at home, went back to school, became a law clerk and now help dads all day long to successfully stickhandle their matters in Family Court...

I’m also an adult child of divorce, step dad, and activist too for national divorce reform too, so I see it from many differing perspectives.

Men must step and accept their power to make change, and exercise it. And we will. But first they have to stop finding “BAD GIRLS” exciting enough to marry.

They always turn on you (and on in doing so, on the kids) in the end.

Danny Guspie
Executive Director

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9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Another Adult Child of Divorce Speaks Out - Adults Suck

Great piece here: "As a child of divorce between two parents with few differences other than conflicting outlooks - the kid left in me wants to scream stop it any way you can even if it means you have to drop to your knees and plead."

Most adults just don't get it - Unless you've gone through it as a child, you cannot possibly know anything about what us "children of divorce" go through. My comment - "Adults Suck" especially when they forget their childhood, humanity, responsibilities and selfishly place their needs above their obligations to their children.

You would think Judges, the most educated members of society would get that. But they don't. and we've seen plenty of cases just like this:

A father who has had his kids for many, many years finally gets an order of child support. He's forced to keep going to Family Court, spend money, and not get any support for the kids, for excuses that would never be tolerated if the roles were reversed. What woman waits years for such an order? Oh and he doesn't get an order of enforcement of child support by the Family Responsibility Office. The Judge turned down what is a routine order in every child support matter in Ontario - enforcement.

This particular mother and the way the Court has let her off the hook for years epitomizes everything bigoted about Family Court. He told the Judge that his kids were begging him to stop all action in Family Court (mom was putting a lot of pressure on them, as you can all imagine.)

Why is it that mothers rarely pay child support when they lose custody?

Because - Adults Suck.

9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

Adults Suck - Part Two (The root causes of teen pregnancies)
Why teenage pregnacy is out of control and the politics behind it,
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM

My letter to the Washington Post - Lowering teenage pregnancies
Lowering teenage pregancies through father involvement after divorce.
9/24/2007 12:10:16 AM
 

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